To offer quality care to the patient, it is necessary that the minder feels good, physics and emotionally.
Taking care is not an easy task and, sometimes, the relatives in charge of the care can experience weariness, stress or depletion.
To maintain a few healthy life habits helps to maintain a suitable physical and emotional condition, what will facilitate to be able to attend better to the sick person.
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IT TAKES CARE OF YOUR HEALTH
It is fundamental that you dedicate a time to look for moments of rest and to realize activities that allow to center the attention on something different from the illness.
Normally the minders neglect those activities that allow after one himself recovers of the weariness and the tensions of the day.
He organizes your time. He decides what activities are important and to which you can say not.
The sufficient thing sleeps: the absence of sleep produces lacking in attention, propensity to accidents, irritability, weariness, emotional tension, stress, fault., and the physical and psychological well-being turns out to be shaken.
If the patient needs attention in the night: to realize shifts, hires or a professional requests some days a week.
If there is a tasks excess: it prioritizes and dedicates some moments of the day to be rested.
He looks for time to relate you to other persons. He avoids the isolation.
It realizes activities out of house.
He looks for moments to rest throughout the day.
He learns to feel good.
The negative feelings, they are completely normal and legal, but it is important to realize them, to admit them, to handle them and to share them with other persons.
He comments on your experiences with other persons who have similar problems; probably it will help you.
Express your feelings to the patient and try to look between both for alternative solutions.
He shares with other relatives and friends the feelings so much of happiness, hope …, as of sadness, powerlessness, fear.
He dedicates a few minutes a day to relaxing. Click here to listen to exercises with instructions to learn to relax.
RESOLUTION OF CONFLICTS AND DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
Sometimes it seems more complicated to solve a problem than to leave that it continues. Nevertheless, for difficult that it proves, it is necessary to face to these situations that generate conflict and discomfort.
It anticipates problems to foresee the solutions
To avoid to take hasty decisions it is fundamental to anticipate the problems that could be arising. It is suitable to involve the patient in the decisions who is possible (economic, legal or of another type), principally if the situation deteriorates. It will allow to have prepared strategies before the situation is critical (worsening, transfer, other problems that prevent the minder from continuing with its task, etc.)
For it, in addition to maintaining familiar meetings, it can be useful to consult other persons or even to use a mediator foreign to the household, to look for solutions.
It establishes limits
Sometimes, the patients domineer those who take care of them. It is suitable to put limits when the persons whom they look after behave of some of the following forms:
They blame the minder for errors that this one commits of involuntary form.
They feign symptoms to receive more attention.
They do reproaches to the minders when these put reasonable limits on its requests.
They push back helps that would facilitate the tasks of the care (wheelchairs or crutches).
They push or strike the minders.
They ask for continuous helps to cover requirements that they might solve.
When of gradual form more and more demands take place, we can go so far as to feel angry and frustrated without knowing exactly the motive. A way of putting limits that is to say not. But it is necessary to say it about the suitable form, so that he you should not feel bad for it do not even offend another person.
IT USES OTHER SOURCES OF HELP
It is necessary to make compatible the life of all the members of the family and the care of the illness. For it it is necessary to use all the available help sources.
Most of the times, the care of the patient person relapses almost completely into only one and so much she like the rest of the family assume that it is its responsibility to do it. It is fundamental that distribute tasks, it is necessary to try to prevent from assuming everything by the same person. And it is the same way important that the patient maintains its autonomy as it is possible.
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He asks other relatives for help
He speaks openly about the needs that stem from the care and he negotiates with each of the members of the family what can do to contribute to the task.
It expresses clearly the class of help that you need and do not hope that others foresee it, say about concrete form what you need from the others.
He accepts that some persons are more ready to help that others. Bear in mind and receive what each one can offer.
It expresses your satisfaction and gratitude for the received help.
It resorts to services, institutions and associations of help.
Perhaps nobody could take care better of our relative that we, but a support on the part of persons or institutions specially formed can complement the help that we offer him.
Thus you will count with moments for your own rest.
He looks for information and consults with specializing professionals
During the illness process there can arise problems of very diverse nature, economic difficulties, need for help to domicile, information need on special products that the patient needs, etc. Many of them have an easy solution, we must only know where to request the help that we need.
When you come to request information, it is important to transmit clearly what the problem is, trying to be as precise as possible.